How to Hit the G-Spot (Part 1) – Girl on Top

I’ve never found it easy to orgasm. That’s why sex toys have always been beneficial to my sex life. While I can get off without them (provided it’s a clitoral orgasm), it just takes longer.

But one thing I’ve never quite mastered is the G-spot orgasm. I do know there are girls out there that can orgasm from penetration quite easily, but there’s a part of me that believes they must secretly be mythical beings! It seems impossible (or at the very least, a lot of work).

So, as an experiment, I thought I’d get Steve and I to try a few sex positions that are apparently perfect for hitting the G-spot. This blog will be a three-part series, with each post covering a range of positions and our experience with them. Keep reading to learn more about the G-spot and our week of girl-on-top action!

What is the G-spot?

The G-spot, or Gräfenberg spot (named after German gynaecologist Ernst Gräfenberg) is an erogenous zone within the vagina. When stimulated, it can lead to strong sexual arousal, powerful orgasms and even female ejaculation! This is all speculation, of course, as its existence hasn’t actually been proven, nor has the source of female ejaculation. 

Although the G-spot has been studied since the 1940s, disagreement over its existence, as well as its definition and location still persist. Many believe that it’s not actually its own separate spot in the vagina, but rather it’s a part of the clitoral network. This means that when you’re stimulating your G-spot, you’re actually stimulating part of your clitoris – that pleasure button where the inner labia meet is actually only the tip of the iceberg!

Where is the G-spot located?

The G-spot is typically reported to be located 5-8cm up the front (anterior) vaginal wall, between the opening and the urethra. Two primary methods have been used to define and locate the G-spot as a sensitive area in the past: self-reported levels of arousal during stimulation, and stimulation that leads to female ejaculation. Ultrasound technology has also been used to identify physiological differences between women and changes to the G-spot region during sexual activity.

How to find the G-spot

If you’ve never tried to find your G-spot before, the best way is to start exploring with your fingers or your partner’s fingers first. Trying to get it with a penis or toy the first time may prove difficult if you don’t have a rough idea of where it’s located and what it feels like already. 

The general tip from most sex publications is to insert two fingers and lift them upward to your belly button in a “come hither” motion. While this is a helpful starting point, it’s important to remember that you’re not looking for a specific button or “spot” – you’re just focusing on what feels nice for you in that general region. Once you’ve found it, you’re meant to focus your attention on this specific area until the magic happens.

Best girl-on-top positions for G-spot stimulation

Keep in mind, while finding your G-spot may feel nice, it’s totally normal if you don’t get the same fireworks you do from clitoral stimulation. According to a 2017 study, only about 18% of women achieve orgasm through penetration, so you’re not alone!

But if you’re like me and you’re curious to see if it’s possible – here are the positions Steve and I tried! 

On top

How the article told us to do it: Have your partner propped up by some pillows and resting against the headboard, so their body is at a 45-degree angle. As they’re sitting up a bit, this means when you straddle them their penis is likely to rub up against the anterior wall of your vagina. Being on top will also give you control over the stimulation, allowing you to find the angle and pace that works best for you. 

What happened: Easy enough to get in position. Not something we haven’t tried before. It definitely felt nice, but it was difficult to make sure it was hitting the right spot every thrust. I found myself focusing on angles rather than just enjoying the sensations.

Steve’s thoughts: It was nice to be able to lie there and enjoy it, and the view wasn’t bad.

Reverse cowgirl

How the article told us to do it: The same as woman on top, except you’re facing your partner’s feet, and your partner is lying flat. Many women find this position to be a more comfortable way to reach a G-spot orgasm, as instead of leaning back you’re learning forward. This allows his penis to stroke and stimulate your front vaginal wall. Grab onto your partner’s lower legs for leverage as you thrust and adjust your hips as needed.

The article also claims that “since you’re turned away, you won’t feel as exposed, which can make it easier to get lost in the sensations” – not sure about this because I feel like exposing your asshole to your partner is way worse than facing them! But if it’s with someone you trust, you should be fine.

What happened: We’d tried this once before years ago, but didn’t last longer than a few thrusts as I struggled to get into the position and didn’t really enjoy it. Tried it again with the goal in mind though, and the angle definitely improved the frequency of contact with the G-spot. But ultimately staring at Steve’s feet wasn’t that exciting.

Steve’s thoughts: I didn’t mind staring at her ass, but it didn’t personally feel any nicer than the other position.

Girl on fire

How the article told us to do it: Have your partner lie down flat before climbing on top and straddling his hips. Once you’re settled, lean back and place your hands on the bed or your partner’s thighs for support, creating a 45-degree angle with his legs. The bonus is if you give up on trying to orgasm from your G-spot, your partner now has easy access to your clitoris.

What happened: Felt really nice, but I don’t have the upper body strength nor the cardiovascular endurance to maintain that position long enough to actually hit the finish line. My hands actually started getting pins and needles. Might be worth trying it again if I work out a little more…

Steve’s thoughts: I could see everything. It was great.

Final thoughts

If you’ve tried these and you haven’t reached orgasm, don’t stress – I’m in the same boat!

The fact is, there are plenty of other ways to reach orgasm. These sex positions are only a few examples. If you want to give it a red-hot shot, you can try the LELO Gigi 2 – renowned as the world’s best G-spot vibrator, and the only way I’ve ever managed to achieve it (in conjunction with clitoral stimulation) to date.

Otherwise, stay tuned for part two, where we’ll try out guy-on-top positions! You can also subscribe to our mailing list so you don’t miss any of our new posts and updates.